Our words carry immense power which we often underestimate. They can either build up or tear down. Verbal abuse often has far-reaching effect on people especially if it started during childhood. 

The wounds of negative words can take years to heal. It’s not surprising that many people are carrying these wounds around and have become abusers themselves. This is pathetic and most people don’t know better.

Prov 18:14 says,

“The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters. The wellspring of wisdom is a flowing brook."

You’re your prophet. Our words and thoughts are the tools for creating our reality. Words are not just sound waves, they are spiritual forces. Given this, we need to be conscious about what we say and how we say it.

It’s not only the word spoken to us by others that can cause harm. Our self-talk is even more powerful and defines our reality.

Without words, thought can never become a reality. If negative words can cause so much damage, then what’s the way out?

1. Increase the volume of your kind inner voice

That voice is always there but the reason you can’t hear it clearly is that negativity has silenced it over the years. Increasing it will enable you to speak kindly to yourself and others.

2. Change your inner script

This strategy will come in handy when people talk to you rudely, say negative words to you, or about you. If such people say "you’re dumb," remind yourself that you’re super creative and smart.

These people are just trying to project their insecurities on you or trying to use negativity to fill a void in their lives. This strategy doesn’t work 

The best thing you can do for yourself is to change your inner script and move on.

3. Speak with authority

Mattew 7:7 says, 

"Ask and it shall be given to you." 

Say what you want how you want it. Don’t even give room for doubt. Say it as if it has already happened. For instance, instead of saying, “how I wish I can get a better apartment before September end,” switch it to "I’ve already moved into my perfect apartment by September 31^st."

4. Avoid depressing talk

Avoid complaining. It will only dampen your spirit. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be vulnerable or empathize with others, but don’t engage in it to the point of throwing a pity party.

5. Replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations

Affirmations are powerful. The more you repeat them, the more they will sink into your subconscious. With time, you’ll start believing them until they become your reality. You can design a customized affirmation board with the plain side of an old calendar, sticky notes, and a permanent marker. 

Consider including powerful phrases such as,

“I am extraordinary.”

“I am fearless.”

“I am enough.”

“I believe in me.”

“I can do this.”

“I get better every day.”

Design your affirmation board and use it to shape your reality.