A Letter to My Younger Self - You're Enough

Monday, April 01, 2019 , , 11 Comments

Yay! I finally got my groove back after a long hiatus.

Taking a break from blogging was never part of the plan but life happens anyway.

My service year was like living in another world entirely due to the power supply and network issues.

I couldn’t muster the effort to start blogging again after I got back. 

Enough with the excuses!

Writing this comeback post took me a truckload of courage and faith. My readers deserve the best and I’m ready to remain committed this time around. 

No more disappearing acts. Peptwine is here to stay.  

I celebrated my birthday a few days ago and decided to pen down a letter to my younger self. 

It’s not like I’m living a life full of regrets but there are some things I wished I had known earlier.

Let’s get started already! 

  • Personal development

Your curiosity and hunger for knowledge will be nearly insatiable.

You may never get answers to all your questions but don't stop asking anyway. 

Nevertheless, be mindful of the books you read and the people you hang around with.

You have the freedom of choice but remember that every single choice matters.

Don’t loathe change, make friends with it instead.

As time goes on, you will realize that you must be better than the person you were yesterday.

Inasmuch as you want to achieve this, overcome self-doubt and give yourself the gift of forgiveness each time you fail. 

  • Friendship

You will spend a lot of time with yourself than anyone else.

Take time to discover who you really are.

Be your number one fan and muse.

In all thy getting, prioritize confidence and nurture a solid relationship with yourself.

There is no need to be confused or alarmed when you realize that you’re an introvert.

Being introverted is nothing to be ashamed of; it can even be one of your greatest strengths.

You’re just as normal and amazing as the extroverted lass next door.

You don’t need to cave in to pressure or embrace toxicity to impress anyone.

It’s perfectly okay if you build healthy friendships with just a few people.

  • Love

Head over heart, baby.

It’s pointless to constantly prove to someone that you’re worthy of their love.

Settling down for a watered down version of love is heart-wrenching. 

Why not invest that energy into loving and improving yourself? 

You will find yourself in different zones and undergo different transitions.

Love will eventually find you. 

Try to work on different facets of your life while you wait.

It may take time, but it’s worth it.

And when it happens, love without an iota of fear.

  • Mental health

Depression is real.

Emotional abuse is real. 

Your mental and emotional health matter. 

Many voices will keep yelling in your head at the same time. Trust your intuition as you find your way.

Ask for help. 

Seek enlightenment from the right sources. 

Know when to walk away from certain people and situations. 

Take note of the lessons learned and tap from the well of joy that's within you.   

  • Money

Nobody owes you anything in this world, not even your parents.

The earlier you understand this, the happier and freer you will be.

Focus on adding value without expecting anything in return. 

You will hear it several times that money doesn’t bring happiness. 

This doesn’t mean you shouldn't invest in experiences and things that make you happy.

Cultivate the habit of budgeting and saving before you become financially independent. 

Acquire sound financial intelligence and learn the principles of managing money early enough. 

  • Purpose 

Living a full life starts with doggedly pursuing your passion.

Finding out where your strengths lie will save you time and unnecessary headache.

Distractions will come in the form of the opinions of others and the fear of failure. 

Many will want to mold you into the exact image in their heads.  

Don't let the size of your dreams scare you.

Remember that you’re called to something bigger. 

This the key to finding fulfillment.  

Unconditionally yours, 

P.S: I will keep loving you even if this letter isn't delivered or you fail to live by it. 

Bola Adekile

Craves basking in the present moment, keen fan of nature. Unapologetic learner. Reader.


  1. Wow... Slaying with the sword of pen. This is more than an open letter to yourself alone, it's for everyone. Keep it up Bola.CONSISTENCY

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Femi. I'm glad you enjoyed it.

  2. Absolutely thoughtful! Thanks for dropping these lines. I learnt too.

    1. Thanks for sharing your views, Mc Teka. I'm glad you found it helpful.

  3. I love this, completely!...well except that the birthday cake didn't reach my crib :)

    1. Thank you, Emmanuel! Unfortunately, the cake had a mind of it's own and failed to show up 😕.

  4. "You may never get answers to all your questions but don't keep asking anyway."

    Did you mean to write *but don't stop asking anyway*?

    Nice piece by the way.

    1. That's exactly what I wanted to write 🙈. I really appreciate this, Stephen.

  5. Welcome back Peptwine!

    Glad to see you bounce back. It doesn't matter whether sooner or later, what matter is that you've come back :)

    Nice to see you back.

    1. Yes! It's good to be back 😀.
      Thanks so much for your kind words, Tunde.

  6. Inspired so much with this Piece. Keep up the good work 👍👍