Charting Through the Murky Waters of Quarter-Life Crisis

Saturday, August 20, 2016 , , 5 Comments

"It is not true that everyone is special. It is true that everyone was once special and still possesses the ability to recover it." - Criss Jami

Quarter-life crisis

No one explained life in details so that we could have a clearer picture of what to expect. Gradually, the “I don’t want to grow up” phrase starts making real sense. You’ll be claiming adamantly that a substantial chunk of yourself is cleverly hidden somewhere, but by who and where exactly? This is not the kind of life that you envisioned years ago. The search for the once confident, purpose driven and staunch possibility evangelist only leads to a never-ending tunnel.

Very serious questions will keep pouring in from different angles of the brain. Where are those dreams? When did my passion begin to fizzle out? Who snatched my confidence? What is life? These questions and more may signal the onset of a quarter-life crisis. Some may experience it as early as adolescence is reached, others won’t go through it until their early thirties, yet, only a few will manage to escape it in their lifetime.

As new responsibilities keep surfacing, throwing up one's hands in despair might look like the only available option. After all, what is the point of trying when nothing is certain? Social media isn't even helping, it’s so easy to stare and gloat at other people’s perfect life. Here is someone who seems to be winning at life and a constant reminder of your sorry state. So you assume that life isn't fair, everything you once believed in is now a lie. If they could only allow you to exchange maps with them, if that is even possible, don't forget that your destinations are quite different.

Going through a quarter-life crisis doesn’t mean that one is doomed to fail. In fact, it can be an opportunity to be better equipped and prevent similar occurrences later in life. The foundations of the remaining quarters are being laid out during this period. Many people go through this phase and return stronger and wiser. No one has figured out everything about his/her life. 

Back to the very serious questions, who needs all that seriousness when you can poke fun at life itself and get away with it? The anger, frustration and all other negative emotions we feel should fuel our passion. It takes more than just believing to shake off the nasty feeling of being left behind, the answer lies in starting afresh.

Bola Adekile

Craves basking in the present moment, keen fan of nature. Unapologetic learner. Reader.


  1. Well, life is full of up(s) and down(s). It takes special courage and determination to start afresh and forge ahead. We need unction for a FRESH BEGINNING. Nice article.

    1. Yes, the freshness of the beginning is enough inspiration to keep going. Thank you, Funmy.

  2. I was once in that position, thinking that life has nothing good to offer after being depressed and frustrated. Fortunately and by God's grace, i was able to scale through and still scaling through it in which i guess am becoming stronger.
    I agree with Funmy Kemmy that life is full of ups and downs, but its not really an easy thing dealing with the negative parts of it.
    I love this heart-penetrating article:)

    1. Taking charge of one's life when at the lowest point is real work. Life has a way of using our challenges and setbacks as a tool to shape us for our purpose. Later in life, our personal experience could help others going through the same situation. It's a great thing that you got back on your feet and become stronger.