Before Vampires Suck the Life out of You

Tuesday, May 03, 2016 , 0 Comments


Have you ever felt drained after spending time with certain people? You knew something was wrong, but you couldn't say specifically. Sometimes, you just can't wait to leave their company. Chances are, you may be dealing with an emotional vampire.

Believe it or not, vampires exists among the human race, forget about the myth. These ones are sun-lovers, their breed don't live for hundreds of years, neither do they suck blood. Their fangs are invisible, but deadly.

It's not their fault that they turned out that way, neither is it yours. That is the more reason why your emotional health is of greater importance.

Emotional vampires are quite charming individuals. Now, don't get me wrong, I am not suggesting that every charming person on earth is an emotional vampire, the difference is that one charm is superficial, while the other is real.

Respecting boundaries is very difficult for them, they are invasive. In their minds, you have no rights to have one in the first place.

They will win you over, tugging at your heartstrings with their tales of woes. Almost everyone in their life has wronged them at one time or the other. You will hear stories of how they did nothing wrong, not for once. If care is not taken, you will soon join the league of wrongdoers.

Another thing is that they are constantly on the lookout for drama, if there is none, they will create it out of nothing. They thrive better in it. Avoid participating in their drama at all costs.

Most of the time, their actions and words are demeaning, thereby, leaving you or others with little or no self esteem.

Confronting, hating or telling them that they have a problem won't solve anything. Majority of them are clueless of their condition, believing that the problem is with other people and not them. They can't see things from others point of view.

Always understand that their words or actions is not about you. Consider it as a dirty piece of rag. Would you hold it tight? I bet you will fling it as far as possible away from yourself. Spend as little time as possible with them and try to look beyond their faults.

Bola Adekile

Craves basking in the present moment, keen fan of nature. Unapologetic learner. Reader.