29, Single, and Broke

 

29, single and broke

29, single and broke

I was 29, single, and broke when I took those pictures. However, I wasn't desperate or ungrateful. I had my whole life ahead of me and couldn't allow anything to weigh me down. I was excited about entering another phase of my life.

I had been thinking of having a photo shoot for my 30th birthday before that moment. I shared the idea with a friend who is a photographer, and he responded "let's do this!"

Unfortunately, I lost some money around that period and became broke. I informed him that I'll be canceling the shoot because I couldn't afford it. He told me he wasn't planning to charge me in the first place and encouraged me to go ahead with the plans.

I felt a bit relieved and started looking for how to get some outfits and a make-up artist. A week before the photo shoot, my sister gifted me a new dress out of the blue. I was so overjoyed. This was someone I didn't tell that I was planning anything.

After the session, he jokingly told me to engage him during my wedding as we were about to leave. I just smiled and replied, "sure." However, in my mind, I was like, "let the husband come first," not knowing that we'll get married eight months later.

It's common to see people ending up with those they shouldn't have any business with because they feel like time isn't on their side. 

Getting married isn't about who gets the ring first. There's no need to feel like damaged goods because you didn't get married at a particular age. You can even make the season the best one of your life so far.

If you're expectant about anything, chillax and remind yourself that you're not asking for too much. You deserve it. Endeavor to do your part too.

I'd love to hear if this post was useful. Feel free to hit the comments or send me a DM on and let me know ❤

Talk soon,

Bola

5 Budget-Friendly Ideas for 2022 Valentine's Day


Celebrating Valentine's Day with your significant other, loved ones, or alone shouldn't cost a fortune. More so, it's pointless to focus on meeting unrealistic expectations or keeping up with the Joneses. 

Looking for some budget-friendly Valentine's Day ideas? I've got you covered:

    1. Be fully present

Nothing beats being fully present when you're with your loved ones. Put your smartphone away and immerse yourself in the experience. They need you right now and here. 

    2. Relive old memories

Go through your old photos, journals, and any documents that take you back to memory lane together. This can even go a long way if you're going through a rough patch in your relationship.

    3. Volunteer

People who are in need deserve loads of love too. Many of them have loved and lost. Offer them a ray of hope by volunteering. You can donate cash or gifts. Other options include rendering acts of service or spending quality time with them. 

    4. Consider DIY gift ideas

Even though the saying that "the best gifts are inexpensive" may sound cliche, it still holds true. This is an inexpensive way to show your creative side. You can even repurpose the items you already have. There are tons of YouTube videos that will help you create a masterpiece.

    5. Opt for a candlelit dinner

If you've been visiting restaurants to celebrate Valentine's Day all these years, then consider having a candlelit dinner in your home. You can either prepare homemade meals or order takeout. Throw in a playlist of your favorite tracks and you'll have a day to remember. 

Remember that showing love to the people who matter in your life goes beyond Valentine's Day. Be intentional about appreciating them throughout the year. 

Got other suggestions or ready to share your Val's plan, let us know in the comments.

Waiting and Undaunted: 5 Pillars Singles Should Live by During the Waiting Season

 The single season should be a beautiful and happy one. It's pointless to put your life on hold because you've resolved never to settle for less than you deserve.


waiting and undaunted


Waiting and Undaunted is the blueprint you need to navigate the waiting season gracefully during this holiday and beyond.

In this free guide, I shared 5 pillars to live by, which will help make the journey exciting and pressure-free.

Filled with short and relatable stories, you'll discover what to do instead of wallowing in self-pity or blaming your village people.

Ready to start unwrapping your Christmas gifts? Then download your copy .

Mindset Revamp: Seven Simple Steps For Crushing The Seeming Giants Of Limiting Mindsets

 

mindset revamp cover

Mindset Revamp is finally out!

Most of the issues we're facing are a result of limiting mindsets. High-stress levels, feeling stuck or overwhelmed, unhealthy relationships, missed goals, and lack of willpower are some common examples.

Sadly, they became full-blown during the pandemic as many people fell into depression and other mental health issues. It can be difficult to live a fulfilling and stress-free life in that state.

Our beliefs act as filters through which we see ourselves and the world. It's imperative to replace negative thought patterns with empowering ones. We've experienced a shift already, and it's not just the wealth shift. It's already seeping into different areas of our lives.

Living an enriching and vibrant life starts with the right mindset. Mindset Revamp is the guide you need to help you adjust seamlessly in this post-pandemic era and overcome the limiting beliefs that often keep us stuck in different facets of our lives.

This ebook offers simple and practical steps for gaining clarity, unlocking endless possibilities, and moving past overwhelm in this fast-paced world.

Click selar.co/mindsetrevamp to get your copy now.